Why should we talk about stress for newborns? Even if you're not pregnant and maybe your kid is now a teen? For the third episode of this series about stress, I'm particularly keen to start from the beginning. Because even babies get stressed (and a lot); and the way we support them determines the formation of the fundamental mental structures that will help them face life even as adults. This is stuff that's worth learning, and spreading to future generations!
Why talking about stress for newborns and babies?
I didn't know anything of what I'm about to write today when I first became a mom.
I was happy and naive, convinced that I would make my mistakes in the best possible way.
My instinct suggested me how to react; but then there were many other voices that rose louder:
"You're going to spoil her!"; "You don't want her to get used to it?" "You're too good/ too patient / miscellaneous."
And then, tiredness; sometimes, the loneliness of misunderstanding.
I hope I didn't do any serious damage, but at the same time I keep telling myself: "If only I had known before!"
So, future babies, moms, you dads who have such an important role but you don't always know. These lines are for you.
If you're thinking that this doesn't concern you, and you're going to click elsewhere (because I know that time is short and precious, and the attention span on the internet lasts a few seconds). Hold on.
Who you are today depends at least in part on those first few months with your parents.
#1: Parents form their babies' brains
At birth, a newborn's brain has about 100 billion neurons. And this is just the beginning.