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tips to get your kids to eat (healthy)

I don't think I'm the only one who has to face this dilemma almost every day: how to make children eat more vegetables and less sugar and chocolate? I don't always want to cook different dishes to satisfy everyone's tastes. Moreover, we want to convince children to eat healthy, but do we know the effects of certain foods on behavior? Here's my top tips to get your kids to eat (healthy), tricks and discoveries to experience calmer, peaceful meals !

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When she'd eat anything

At the beginning, she would eat anything...

Let's go back in time. When my eldest daughter was about 18 months, she ate everything. But really just about everything ! Ok, maybe not broccoli (I can understand). I remember when, during a vacation on the seaside (she had just turned 2), we went to the fishmonger and she looked so transfixed at the clams that the fishmonger gave her one that she kept happily between her hands. (And then tasted with pasta later 😉 )

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No illusions mommy, it's gonna change

Then, suddenly, something has changed. Little by little, she loved less and less food, and she eliminated one by one the products on her list. Up to the point when I could only choose between pasta with tomato sauce and pasta with olive oil and fish sticks (and the only vegetables were the tomatoes in her ketchup).

I'm not talking about the opposition's phase, when children reaffirm their identity and they will oppose to anything we propose. Maybe it started because of that ... but now, 2 years later, my daughter should be out of that phase! (Or maybe she's in permanent opposition ..)

As this transition was slow, I did not understand my reaction at first. I would constantly search for something my kids would like. I did not want to force them to eat so as not to associate the meal with a power struggle. And sometimes, I was just tired and I did not want to argue.

...continue reading "Top 10 tips to get your kids to eat (healthy) without struggles"

Pregnant but don't know what you'll need? Entering a store for early childhood makes you dizzy because you have no idea what's really helpful? Your belly gets bigger and you are afraid of having to go to the office in sportswear? Here's my personal guide to pregnancy purchases ! To help you disentangle yourself through the pitfalls of maternity marketing and the anxiety due to the hormonal waves .. from someone who has been there too!

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Oh gosh what will I need ?

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When I was pregnant..

I don't know if you have ever entered a children's store. You know, one of those chains exclusively dedicated to parents who are expecting their first child, worried about what they should buy.

If you are passionate about marketing and business strategies, you should definitely go take a look : they are amazing. Extremely informative. I remember when we went to watch the strollers.

To make you understand what kind of people were my husband and I (because every couple is of course different), here's a brief description: my husband loves order and minimalism. The less, the better. I'm always afraid to buy items that are too expensive or too delicate because ... well, because I don't pay enough attention.

For me, objects must serve something first and I shall use them when and how I need them. I don't want to worry about breaking them - dirtying them - leaving a scratch and thinking "Oh man!"! (Let's face it, it was a good thing after all since I've discovered the destructive power of a creature under 6 ).

I was sorry for the in-store salespeople who might have expected a very different approach..

But still. As we look at the strollers, I remember an employee promoting a capsule coffee machine, not for coffee but with milk powder. Did you know that it existed ?!

Why a guide to pregnancy purchases?

I had this feeling, that in order to satisfy the concerns of new parents-to-be who want to do well and to give the best to their creature, and who worry that they'll not have enough time nor energy, the most unthinkable objects were designed.

(Just to be clear: I've nothing against milk powder capsules, although honestly the regular bottle's preparation requires max 30 seconds)

You will find everything in these stores: vacuum diapers disposals; a stroller to go jogging that, if you want, can turn into a sled (you never know); the homogenizer; sterilizers; etc. And so on.

Difficult to disentangle between the many proposals of prepared sales people.. and to be able to say no : "Look, this car seat, sure, it costs twice as much, but in terms of security, there is no possible comparison, and is the only one that respects next year changes in regulation. Besides, the safety of your daughter has no price.. "

I'll offer you today a little irreverent guide to pregnancy purchases, based on the little experience I have acquired. Hoping that even if you are not the expecting, you'll have some fun reading 😉

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Things for baby.. where should I start ?

Guide to pregnancy purchases : Home things

First advice

Take only the very essential before the birth.

Of course, you'll want a crib, a stroller, and a seat to bring baby home, but that's about all you'll need in the beginning. Wait ! Children are not all the same and you can't predict all your needs..

If, on the other hand, you expect to have your baby in your arms before going to the store, two incredible things will happen:

  1. You'll only go there if you discover an urgent need, powerful enough to make you give up an hour rest, or a walk around the park, five minutes of reading on the couch; and will convince you to pack baby and his stuff (read: a small suitcase) immediately after his meal to go to the store and make your purchases before the following one.

  2. You'll want to stay there as little as possible. (You'll have to feed your baby at some point anyways). And you'll already know more or less what you are looking for, which will expose you much less to all the temptations.

Second Advice

Make a research first. As this guide you're reading, you can find on the Internet forums, tips and advice, as well as comparisons between brands. Get an idea when you're still at home: going with clearer ideas will save you time and disappointment. (Money is a relative, and it can also be well spent).

When I was looking at the catalogs of children bedrooms, I also dreamed of having one with all the options and decorations. But then, I also looked around and resigned myself to the fact that I already had a lot of things that made up for a bedroom or that I could adapt other things to that purpose. (But looking at these catalogs is always a bit of a dream).

A very kind lady, who owns a children's store with second-hand clothes and objects near me, helped me to overcome my commercial indecision. One of those people who are sincerely kind, willing to explain; she always gave me good advice regardless of my intention to buy.

Many times I left without buying anything after talking to her. But that allowed me to gain a lot of confidence, so much so that now I always come back to her store whenever I have a doubt ... If you can find someone like that, then you're fine! but otherwise, here I am trying to help you 🙂

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No, no, it's not that difficult

My personal recommendations

  1. THE CRIB _ We used our family crib, the one where I slept as a baby ! 😉 The crib has an advantage over the bed: the baby feels well protected when he is so small. On the other hand, you will only use it during the first months, so on this point, an evolutive cot can help!

  2. THE CHANGING DRESSER _ I equipped a table that I no longer used, covered with padded fabric and equipped with wooden drawers for diapers, creams, medicines. No need to buy a big piece of furniture in my opinion.

  3. THE STROLLER _ We'd found a used trio set from Chicco, similar to this one. It did not cause us any problems, but I think we could have found better. In any case, I was happy to have bought a used one (perfect condition and half price). The criteria of choice? That it fits in the trunk of your car - some are unnecessarily huge (unless you lived up in the mountains); that it's not too heavy, so that you can lift it easily - you know, when there is no elevator for example.

  4. THE CAR SEAT (If you do not take it as part of the stroller set) _ We opted for the cradle of the stroller trio during the first months, then for the car seat from 6 to 8 months passing from category 0 to category 1 (9-36 kg). I recommend this option, choosing good quality, to avoid buying two car seats, but it obviously depends on your needs. Putting the cradle in the car is very tedious. If you have little space, the car seat may be better for you..

  5. THE BABY BOUNCER _ .. We bought a used, simple bouncer (like this one). My eldest used it a dozen times at most. It is true that it was convenient when she was a newborn, when we wanted to eat for example without holding her in our arms. But she never really appreciated. My son a lot more ... Obviously, there are more sophisticated ones, with lights, sounds, movements ... babies may like them more. But every baby is different. So be careful 😉

  6. BABY CARRIER (or wrap if you're ready to learn how to put it on). _ I tried both. I recognize that the wrap is more "child-friendly", but I have never been able to learn the technique well; in some situations, I found it uncomfortable (when traveling to the airport, on the street ... everywhere you have to put it on quickly and there is not much space).

    The baby carrier saved my life. (Here's ours). Perhaps more indispensable than the stroller. Because the baby likes to stay against you; Sometimes he can not stand to stay for long in the stroller or the bouncer. And you can continue doing what you were doing with your baby on yourself (I do not know how many times I vacuumed, stretched linens, prepared dinner with my daughter in the baby carrier. She could not stand to be alone to play!)

  7. BREAST PUMP As I explained in my post on breastfeeding, a breast pump since the birth can be an incomparable ally.

Guide to pregnancy purchases : Mom's clothes

So here I open a difficult chapter. Because for me, finding pregnancy clothes that also were aesthetically pleasing and appealing turned out to be an almost impossible mission.

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I can't put THAT on!

For breastfeeding it was even worst. (I reached the top when I was looking for a dress to attend a wedding, which could also be compatible with breastfeeding. Level of difficulty: climbing Everest.)

I would leave the possible causes to this phenomenon to another post. Here, I would like to give you some advice, because I am convinced that feeling beautiful during pregnancy and without spending a fortune, is possible and even necessary..

Remember that to raise a healthy baby with a super brain, it is important to be calm and feel good.!!

Personally, I used one French brand in particular :

I found other sites during my research, but did not use them personally. I quote them anyway because they have many choices and offer different brands and price ranges :

Envie de fraise, an online French store.
Séraphine

I'll also mention Pietro Brunelli, which is an Italian brand, more on the pricey side.

Guide to pregnancy purchases : Baby's clothes

Same story: I advise not to exaggerate before birth. Imagine that you buy an entire layette in size 0, then your son is born bigger than expected and cannot wear any of them! Every child is different, even for the pace at which he grows up (in general, it is better to go wider than narrower)

I'd start so :

  • 2 or 3 pajamas, according to the season;

  • a dozen bodysuits, including some of size 3 months.

  • Plus, of course, some warmest jackets depending on the season.

During the first two months, I dressed mine almost exclusively in bodysuits and pajamas. The hospital where you give birth will tell you exactly what to bring; you can stick to their advice to get started!

  • sleeping bags. I found them so convenient that I hardly ever used the sheets. They are suitable for almost all seasons (in summer they do not need anything, so no worries); and in all situations.

The children stay covered and warm; you do not have to redo the beds; they wash themselves very easily; you can take the kids in your arms while they sleep with them. I discovered them in France because in Italy we do not use them so much (That explains my surprise as I told you in this post about pregnancy)

I'll conclude suggesting you this post about an eco-friendly baby registry 😉

Here you are! I hope to have given you a first idea and advice for your pre-delivery purchases! And if you have questions, concerns or advice, if I omitted something, leave a message. 🙂

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Did you brush your teeth? Come on, put on your sweater! And the shoes? Honey, but you're 5 years old, how come I still have to get dressed or you're never ready ?! Come on, we're late !! Does it sound familiar? Arriving on time at the office has become impossible? Going out requires an hour of preparation? Here I reveal 5 strategies, 5 secrets to get your kids to cooperate! Without threats 😉

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Secrets to get your kids to cooperate.. do they exist?

Preface. Secrets to get your kids to cooperate? They don't exist. (Or do they ?)

"Hurry up, we're late, come on, here are your shoes, and put on your coat." "IDONTWANTTO!" "But honey, it's cold, do you see the penguins out there? You can not go out without your coat." My tone of voice is beseeching. "NO, NO AND NO, I AM NOT PUTTING MY COAT."

Typically, in its variants, the scene continues as follows: after exhausting the list of valid reasons for which one should wear a jacket on winter mornings, especially when one makes 40 minutes of cycling, I seize my son by force; I put on his jacket as he shouts, kicks, pushes me away and cries like a convict under torture; and then I drag him between the astonished glances of neighbors and passers-by. When we arrive at school, the crisis is (almost) over.

It never happens to you? Of course, the same skit can also happen for other clothes.

I was fed up with these morning disputes, which added to a tight timing; where I tried (often in vain) to keep a semblance of good humor. So I started looking, experimenting, changing. And I found some secrets to make the children collaborate! Some tips that really saved me on more than one occasion. If you too are struggling every day to get a minimum of cooperation, read on 😉

...continue reading "The 5 Genius Secrets to get your kids to cooperate (and dressed on time)"

Do we know how to accept our children's emotions ? And what about ours? There is a lot of talking today about emotion .. And that's good. Beyond knowing how to identify them, accepting your children's emotions is sometimes easier said than done .. It is a learning process too, and here I share my tips with you !

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Emotion what?

What do you know about emotional education?

The first time I heard about  "emotional education" was reading one of the articles of this online course, in which it was suggested to "put a word" on what the baby is going through.

Does she cry because she's hungry? "Yes, my love, I know you're hungry, I know it's hard to wait (we frown) now your dinner's coming" (our face opens with a smile).

Baby becomes extremely irritable because she's tired? "Of course honey, you're very tired, I see it, it's hard to stay calm when you're exhausted and want to sleep (here, the expression of an empathetic understanding is easy, right?) Now we're going to sleep."

And by mimicking these feelings with our expressions at the same time as we speak, which we usually do automatically and unconsciously, our baby learns to associate the sound of the word with the emotion and to how positive the sensation was. (For more examples and a good guide on the subject, I recommend this book from Lynne Murray)

Well, I find that afterwards, things get a little more complicated. Because as long as one has to interpret the crying of a baby, despite the lack of language, the options are not infinite: angry because of a dirty diaper/ hungry / thirsty ; sad because she wants to be hugged; happy when her mother picks her up and interacts with her; marveled when she discovers something new, etc.

...continue reading "How accepting your children’s emotions will make you a happier parent"

Pregnancy test : positive. Now what?! An invasion of emotions of all kind; varied advice and beliefs will accompany the waves of all the upcoming changes. What shall we expect? To answer some of your questions, here's a little guide of the 9 unusual experiences you may face during pregnancy.. starting from my own.

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Should we have a child?

Unusual experiences you may face during pregnancy - #1 : You should have a baby! (or not?)

How do we decide if and when to have a child? Today, it is not so much a social obligation.. or so we like to think. It is generally accepted that a couple decides in conscience not to have a baby, or to have it "later".

Or is it? Don't we ever so often ask our friends, colleagues and neighbors the most hated question : "When will you finally decide to have a baby?"

Cultural factors can have a great influence. And I think that these reasons behind the choice, as well as the values and images we associate, sometimes unconsciously, with pregnancy and parenthood, will influence somewhat the way we are going to live this moment (our own snapshots of pregnancy and parenthood so to speak).

Among our friends we were the first to have a child, while in France, we were quite on the average .. (and fertility rate actually confirms this difference : in France, it is the highest among the countries of the U.E., followed by UK (which has a rate similar to the US; in Italy it's the lowest; women also have children much later in Italy than elsewhere in Europe). Why? What are the underlying reasons behind this choice?

Socioeconomic factors, cultural reasons, state investments to support families and facilitate the resumption of employment on the part of parents .. it deserves a separate article!

Unusual experiences you may face during pregnancy - #2 : A girl's dream

When I was a child and played with my dolls and Barbie, I was not very original: my stories of Barbie and Ken always saw them falling in love, getting married, possibly living in a castle, and having many children. From time to time they quarreled of course, but nothing serious.

...continue reading "The 9 unusual experiences you may face during pregnancy"

When my kids were little, I couldn't wait for them to talk! My eldest started quite late, and I dreamed of how it would have been nice to communicate more easily.. I was naive, I know. But how priceless when they just start shattering their thoughts around, without filters nor brakes! Because the silly things children say reveal the free course of their interpretation of the world..

The only problem then is to remember it all. Even their impertinence. When we know that we should scold them, but they're just so funny! And in the end, laughing works a little like cuddling. : a real tension's discharge (maybe it also helps to better develop our brains)

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I have sooo many things to say..!

Unfortunately, I never had the reflex to write them down somewhere, but I exchanged them with my family on a chat. So I spent two hours trying to retrieve all the silly things children say or said over the last three years, to share them with you! Because in the end, this is one of this blog's missions right?).. We can all learn from the silly things children say : to let us invade by the enthusiasm of whoever discovers everything for the first time. Without judgments or beliefs. Just a spark of life. Ready?!

PS : my children do speak Italian at home. Therefore, I translated their sentences trying to take into consideration their intention and the linguistic differences.

First words

The very first sentence goes back to 3 years ago. My daughter was just starting out with the language at the time. I couldn't stand her rebellious strands, and I'd decided to cut her hair myself  (such a crazy idea, I know).

Various and vain attempts later, I gave up my good intentions and sound principles, and I offered her my cellphone to watch Peppa Pig. (For those with older kids : Peppa Pig is a very popular cartoon among young children. Peppa is a little-girl-pig that lives in an English countryside populated by animal-people ..)

You can't improvise hairdresser. So this also decreed my next obligation to take her to a real one. Long story short. She was nonetheless very proud of her new haircut, and adored me for that (kids'innocence). While her dad was changing her diaper, she rewarded her mother's commitment by telling him:"Mama you better!" She then turned to me as I was leaving for work : "Ciao my luv see ya late!"

...continue reading "The silly things children say (and what we can learn from them)"

I can't do it, I'm no good! But what shall I do? That's the way it is! There's nothing we can do about it.. Sometimes I catch myself in these thoughts. Without realizing it, without really knowing how to stop. But .. is it true that nothing can be done to change things? How do these automatic thoughts affect my life? What is limiting me, really, behind these words? And if I really have conditioning beliefs ... I surely don't want to pass them on to my children! I want them to grow thinking that anything is possible, if you believe. Have you ever thought about the number of beliefs that dot our minds, for better or for worse? Let's take a look!

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Everyday's prison

Realizing what is limiting me.. Routine !

End of autumn, it was still dark outside when we left home in the morning. Come on, hurry up, mom has to go to work! Why can't we never get out on time?

Then I would leave her in preschool as soon as it'd open, before the teacher came in. Morning staff tried to be nice and smiling; but it didn't work too well for my daughter. She was looking at me as if I was abandoning her on the gallows.

Sometimes, noticing a friend, she would join him to draw. More often, she clung to me crying. Honey, mom has to go to work, I'd really rather stay with you a little longer, but I can't.

Right. Must I work? Or do I choose to work? And why? I fought against these questions. There was no time to answer them.

And when I let them filter into my conscious space, a dark shadow would tighten me. That's the problem when you become a parent. Everything takes on another meaning.

Where do you want to go? What do you want to become? When, and why? And when will you do something to get there?

One day. But yes, one day, I'll have time. One day I'll know how to answer. But not now, not today, honey. Today, we must go.on.fast! Why do you get distracted all the time! You never manage to concentrate!

...continue reading "What is limiting me? Conditioning beliefs and how I identified them at motherhood"

When we have a chance to get closer to the people we know, we immediately realize how each individual family has its own sets of values, its ways of being together, communicating and sharing traditions. When becoming a mother abroad, these differences can become huge.. For today's post, I interviewed a Japanese friend who is now living in Dresden, to inquire how becoming a mother abroad, in Germany, can be different than in Japan. Here's her story..

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Becoming a mother abroad, from Japan to Germany

As my friend wants to stay anonymous, I will give her a fictitious name. This is the story of Ichiko, a Japanese woman that a few years ago decided to move to Germany. What seemed like a temporary trip to learn the language, became instead a jump into a new life. New home, new family, and new set of values.. an internal contradiction that came into full force when becoming a mother abroad. But let's get things in the right order.

A marriage according to Japanese tradition

Ichiko was born in a small town in the center of Japan, in what she defines as "an old fashioned-style family". She was the first child for her parents. A few years earlier, when her parents wanted to get married, her father Daiki had to ask permission to his future parents-in-law.

He said "Would you please give your daughter to me?" as the tradition asked for.

Was he nervous when he opened the door, with this ready-made formula in mind? Did he ask his girlfriend Asako before? Was Asako taken into consideration in any step of this process? Was she anxiously watching behind a curtain when her boyfriend came in? Unfortunately, we'll never know. But if, indeed, there was any emotion, most likely Daiki and Asako had to keep it well hidden in their hearts.

...continue reading "Becoming a mother abroad. A mothering trip from Japan to Germany"

You probably experienced at least once in your life to get in a situation over which you had no choice or control. Traffic jam. Train or plane cancelled at the last moment. Got sick right the day of your important meeting/vacation/event. And you felt that strong frustration and anger. Our children often experience the same angry frustration when we decide everything for them.. But we know better, right?! Why having a choice is so important? What lesson does having a choice teach us and our children? What good can it bring into our daily life?

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choice is empowering

I want to make a choice!

Dinner was ready. We called the children, and as usual, this triggered THE question : "Is there pasta?" Now, we're Italian, it's true, but I still believe it is important to eat a little bit of everything ..

No, honey, we had pasta yesterday, and you had also pasta at lunch in school.
Mamma!!! You know I only like pasta! What are we eating then?
Come and see my love

My daughter looked half sad, half disgusted at the roasted salmon and the sauteed spinach on the plate. Tears started rolling down her cheeks.

I don't want to eat this! I don't like it!
Honey, you haven't even tried it!
YOU don't understand! I KNOW I don't like it! You want me to eat it just because you always want to decide for me! I want to choose! I want to eat what I want to eat!

Let's stop right here. This was a very typical scene in our house over the last months. Whenever I told, especially my daughter, something she was supposed to do (leave the house to go to the playground; put the jacket on; put a certain pair of shoes or of pullovers; eat something different than pasta or chocolate; and so on) she yelled at me very angrily one - or more- of these sentences :

You always want to decide for us, it's not fair! I'm old enough to decide! I want to choose what I want! When am I going to be old enough to make a choice?! You only tell us this because you want to give us orders!

...continue reading "The power of choice"

I don't know about you, but it happens to us sometimes that we introduce a small change in routine, we say a little innocent no, and..at our bewilderment, unexpected shouting and crying are the response from our children. And among the shouting we try to explain our rational motivations, only to see an increase in the intensity of the reaction.. and we end up shouting ourselves. Ever happened ? Then you wonder.. how come such a small thing could spoil mood and atmosphere? Why every so often our children start shouting and we don't react in an effective way, thus ruin our time together?

I don't think it's the ugly character of our creatures (in any case, it's better not to think so!). But a misunderstanding.. Let's dig in!

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Children are shouting.. what shall I do?

Why are you shouting, my sweetheart.. ?!

It's afternoon, I went to pick up child #2, and I set off with him to the school of daughter #1. It's sunny, we're calmly riding the bike, singing; in short: so far everything's perfect. In fact, I missed the children today, I'm so happy to hug them tight.

I also naively thought: Since we unfortunately still have to go grocery shopping, why not stop at the bakery right in front of the supermarket and choose something together? A muffin or a sweet? It will be a nice surprise!

I glimpse my daughter in the courtyard from afar, she runs towards me all happy, hugs me. "Mom, Mom, did you bring me my snack?"

Here, at this moment, we cease to resemble the perfectly happy family, and we return to be the perfectly imperfect family. For a moment I had hoped.. The shouting begins.

I want the snack in my snack box! As you always do ! I want to eat what I want! I want to decide!

Picture my initial bewilderment among the screaming, the crying and the noise while, I try to breathe deeply to keep calm. After all these posts about breathing..

...continue reading "Shouting, needing, wanting.. interpreting the crises for more harmonious relationships"

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