What is kindness? Why is it be important to teach it to our children ? Here a reflection on the benefits of kindness when we live it on a daily basis.
What is kindness?
Let's talk about kindness today, as it sometimes seems disappearing in our world, and yet I believe it is a very important virtue.
I'll start with its definition : kindness defines a person
being friendly, generous, and considerate;
with a pleasant disposition, and concern and consideration for others.
(as taken from google and wikipedia )
To be clear in my remarks: I'm not talking about a fake kindness here. I do not refer to these codes of conduct that make us say yes while we think the opposite, this mask of which Thomas d'Ansembourg speaks in his deep and revolutionary "Being Genuine : Stop being nice, start being real"
(If you don't know him, I really suggest you to watch his conference ) :
No. I insist with my children and want them to be "nice" in their gestures and words because it is, in my opinion, an exercise of empathy.
I consider a value the affection that we carry towards each other and towards ourselves, and which must be manifested through our daily actions and words.
When I think about kindness here, I think about respect. Respect for others as for ourselves. If I respect myself, I want to be treated with fair words and deeds; and if I respect others, I want to treat them with fair words and deeds.
When I think about kindness, I think about the love we feel when we are connected, able to make demands and express needs without accusing or judging.
Kindness .. What for?!
You're maybe thinking, "It's a bunch of really nice words, but that's not our real life! When I do get angry, I don't necessarily want to be nice, it wouldn't work!"